Tuesday, February 26, 2013

NYC FREE FIND: The Times Square Visitors Center Wishing Wall



I don’t know about you, but around this time of year I start losing sight of the many resolutions I made at New Years.  The reality and routine of life combined with the endlessness of winter dull my motivation to do just about anything other than sit in front of the television and watch marathons of “Downton Abbey” and “Girls”.


But last week I discovered a little New York gem that renewed my spirit.  In the heart of Times Square I came upon a Wishing Wall.  Tiny squares of colorful paper with the wishes of people from all over the world tacked up to be shared.  After reading thru many lotto winner hopefuls and love seekers I wanted to add my own dreams to the bunch.  I grabbed a slip of pink paper and wrote in big, bold letters my biggest, boldest dreams.  I put them in a box with the other wishes of the day to be added to the wall and eventually released over Times Square in the celebratory moment that is midnight of the New Year.  That’s what becomes of the wishing wall.  At the end of each year, all the wishes are collected to be released as the confetti over Times Square that signal the start of a New Year and a new wish.


Something about adding my wish to the collective and having it be a part of that moment really resonated with me and renewed my sense of commitment to my resolutions.  Anything that can reconnect you with your goals is a powerful tool and one that we all need to check in with from time to time.  Luckily, I’ve found mine and thankfully, there’s no limit to the wishes you can make.  I expect I’ll be back at the wishing wall again soon, sharing my dreams and reaffirming the commitments I’ve made to myself.

Happy Dreaming.



The Times Square Visitors Center is  located at 1560 Broadway New York, NY 10036
Open 7 days a week. 8am-8pm


Thursday, February 21, 2013

You CAN Always Get What You Want


Last night my girlfriends and I went out to celebrate a very special birthday.  I knew I’d be splurging a bit so I checked out the menu online before heading out. I wanted to have an idea of how much I’d be spending.  I settled on a moderately priced mushroom ravioli but when I got to the restaurant the price was 20% more than the price listed online. 

Sure, in the scheme of things it was only an additional $3, but then I got to thinking; If everyone’s dish was 20% more at the restaurant than online, that’d be a hugely substantial increase- especially with a party of 10. 

I pulled up the restaurant’s site on my phone and pointed out the discrepancy to the manager.  We wound up with a table full of complimentary desserts that night.



            
The point here isn’t to score free stuff, but to speak up when there’s a misrepresentation or a mistake.
            
While I’ve enjoyed refunds, free replacements, complimentary gift cards, and as of last night, free desserts, I only like to say something if I feel there’s a legitimate complaint to be made.  I don’t seek to take advantage of a business, but I also don’t want a business to take advantage of me- even unintentionally.

As a kid I was always mortified when my mom complained.  So for a long time I let myself get screwed over when things weren’t as advertised or a service wasn’t up to par or when something wasn’t what I asked for or ordered.  But over the years I’ve learned that silence isn’t always golden and it’s worth it to speak up.  So next time something seems off or you’re less than pleased, kindly point it out and ask for what you deserve- 100% satisfaction.

Thursday, February 14, 2013

What Women Want.



It’s not necessarily the flowers or the chocolates or the fancy bottle of wine, it’s what went into getting it.  You were thinking of me and went out of your way to do something for me.  The value of that isn’t reflected in the price of the gift but in the thought and effort that went into it.

That’s what women want.

To be valued.  Not monetarily but in time and in thought.  Here are some totally free ways to show your love everyday.


Communicate.  Women want to be loved.  They want to be shown that and they want to be told that.  Even if you say it all the time, say it more and say why. 

Appreciate.  Women love to take care of others.  Let them know that you recognize their efforts and appreciate them.   Say thank you.


Listen.  Women want to be heard.  If they mention something repeatedly, make a mental note.  When you have the opportunity to act on it, they’ll be thrilled you cared enough to remember.

Prioritize.   Women prioritize love.  Show your love by doing the same.  Turn off the computer, the videogames, the cell phone, the television, the big game, whatever and reciprocate the attention, the time, and the love they give you.

Finding and growing love comes free.  The flowers and paraphernalia are just some fun extras.


Sunday, February 10, 2013

Automate Your Life


… Or at least your budget.  If you’re one of those people who are “allergic” to budgeting I challenge you to take one day to set up some basic accounts and automate your financial life.  Instead of stressing out about how to set aside money each time a paycheck comes in, or worse, blowing your paycheck each week, let the power of automation help you.

You can automate based on whatever budget you like.  There are many arguments to be made for the best budgeting plan, but what’s most important is that you put SOME plan in place.  For the purposes of simplicity and getting started I’m going to suggest a fairly simple plan.  You can set up as many separate accounts as you like or need as you get the hang of things or find certain new categories in your life that you’d like to fund (for example, an account for your children), but for now let’s keep it simple.


Expense Account
-       55% of each paycheck.
-       Held in a checking account.
-       Covers fixed monthly expenses (rent, utilities, food, insurance, etc).

* If your expenses are more than 55% of your take home pay that’s a big red flag.  You are living beyond your means and you need to take some time to reassess and see where you can cut back.  Read through some other “broke and beautiful” posts for ideas.

Emergency Fund
-       10% of each paycheck until maxed out (six to one year of living expenses).
-       Held in a high yield (preferably online) savings account.
-       Covers unexpected expenses (medical bills, loss of job, car breakdown, etc).
-       Once this fund is maxed out, this money can be allocated to other accounts (I recommend retirement (specifically in the form of a ROTH IRA) or long term savings/debt).

Retirement Account
-       10% of each paycheck.
-       Held either through your employer in a 401k or your own retirement fund (I recommend a ROTH IRA) through a reputable brokerage firm (ING, Vanguard, Schwab, etc).
-       Covers retirement.  Not to be drawn from until then.

Debt Payment/Long Term Savings Account
-       10% of each paycheck.
-       Gets paid directly to credit card, student loans, or any other debt; or deposited in a high yield (preferably online) savings account.
-       Covers debt payments and long-term savings goals (down payment for a home or car, savings for a major renovation, etc).

Play Account
-       10% of each paycheck.
-       Held in a checking account.
-       Covers dining out, entertainment, hobbies, indulgences, vacations, etc.

Giving Account
-       5% of each paycheck.
-       Held in a checking or easily accessible savings account.
-       Covers gifts and charitable donations.



Now that we’ve established a sample budget structure let’s talk about automation.

1.     If you haven’t already set up direct deposit through your employer do so today.  Deposit your paychecks and any other forms of income into your expense account.  Make sure you’ve established online access to this account as this is how you’re going to set up the remainder of your automation.

2.     Set up automatic bill pay from your expense account for any monthly bills you can pay online.  (Cable, mortgage, etc).

3.     Open an account for each of the categories above at the recommended institutions (bank, employer, or brokerage).  Be sure to establish online access. 

* You don’t even need to go to the bank to open an account.  Everything can be done online or over the phone.

4.     From your Expense Account (the place where all income is collected/deposited) start automatic transfers through the Transfers and Payments page of your banks‘ site to the rest of your accounts.

For Internal Accounts  (held at the same bank) Choose:

-       From (Your checking  “expenses” account).
-       To (the appropriate account (“play”, “give”, etc)).
-       Amount (10% or 5% of your typical paycheck depending on which account).
-       Frequency (However often you get paid).
*If you freelance or have variable income, make transfers bi-weekly or monthly based on your overall income for that month.


 For External Accounts (held at a different bank or brokerage) Choose:

-       Add external account (enter account number, routing number, bank information).
-       Verify external account.
-       Set up automation as described above (under internal accounts).


Each bank will have a slightly different way of automating, but they all follow roughly the same format.  Adapt as necessary. 

Once you’ve automated you’ll know exactly how much money you have to “play” or “give”, etc.  The automation will force you into moderation and not overspending all the time.  It will also force you to take responsible action towards retirement and long-term savings goals.  Depending on your budgeting plan and financial goals you can adjust the percentages, amounts, and frequency with which you deposit into each account. 

I know it’s a lot and can seem overwhelming, but take the time.  It’s worth it.  Set aside this one day to work through setting up each account and watch your financial goals become reality in the future- automatically. 



Friday, February 8, 2013

It's Cheaper In New York.



The cost of living in New York City can be painful- sky high rents and a premium on just about everything from groceries to toiletries.  But there are some exceptions.  Instances when things are actually CHEAPER than the rest of the country.  So look on the bright side and enjoy!

Pizza. 99-cent pizza slices.  Enough said.

Mani/Pedi.  I’m no spa aficionado but I do know you can find mani/pedis in Manhattan for $20.  Maybe it’s the stiff competition between the countless salons in a few blocks radius.  If you can pop in when they’re offering their specials, you’re bound to get a better deal than you would out in the “burbs”.  Here are a few recommendations.

-       Enjoy Nail Spa- Kips Bay ($20 mani/pedi, all day, every day)
o   148 E 28th St (b/w Lex &3rd)
-       Kh Midas Nail- Chelsea ($20 mani/pedi, Monday-Wednesday)
o   203 W 14th Street
-       Top Beauty Spa- East Village ($25 mani/pedi with mini neck and shoulder massage, Monday-Thursday)
o   192 2nd Ave (b/w 12th & 13th)

Transportation.  Rarely have I encountered such a comprehensive public transportation system as I have in New York City.  As much as the MTA pisses me off sometimes, I have to say, the fact that I can get just about anywhere in NYC for $2.50 is pretty amazing.  [I didn’t really appreciate this till I went to LA and found it would cost me a $50 super shuttle ride to get to my hotel, as there was no public transportation option.]



Lunch.  While dining out in New York can be absurdly expensive, the lunch specials are some of the best I’ve seen.  My personal favorites are the Thai restaurants on 9th avenue (in midtown), all trying to “out value” each other.    I can go have a sit down lunch (appetizer included), great atmosphere, tax, and tip for $10 out the door. 

Museums.  New York not only has some of the greatest museums in the world, they’re also accessible to people on any kind of budget.  While some museums offer free or “pay what you wish” days or nights, the following museums are always “suggested donation”- meaning you can pay as much or as little as you want. 
-       Metropolitan Museum of Art.
-       The Cloisters.
-       American Museum of Natural History.
-       Museum of the City of New York.
-       Brooklyn Museum.
-       Queens Museum of Art and the Panorama.
-       Museum of the Moving Image.
-       P.S. 1 Museum of Contemporary Art.
-       Fire Museum.
-       Police Museum.
-       Studio Museum of Harlem.





Entertainment.  The amount of free and cheap entertainment in New York City is mind-boggling.  Yes, there are the ridiculously expensive tickets to MSG Concerts and Broadway shows, but there are also opportunities you won’t find anywhere else like standing room tickets, rush discounts, nightly showcases by musicians at bars on the lower east side, performances at churches and schools around the city, free concerts and theatre in Central Park, and free tapings for popular shows like The Colbert Report and Letterman.



Public Freebies.  Take advantage of all those city taxes you pay.  Visit the parks, take a ride on the Staten Island ferry, and attend the free movies, classes, and exhibitions.  Check online for weekly updates at www.nycgo.com/freeweekly or www.nycgovparks.org/events.





Friday, February 1, 2013

Cheap Fun: Clothing Exchange


I’ve been doing a little pre-emptive spring cleaning in the new year and coming across so many clothes I just don’t wear.  Not just old, raggedy clothes, but nice, quality shirts, pants, and dresses that just never seem to make the final cut when it’s time to get dressed and head out. 

After having failed at my first attempt at selling items on eBay and not having the energy for craigslist I found myself in a bind.  I wanted to get rid of the things I wasn’t wearing, but I also wanted some kind of return.  After all, some of the clothes still had tags on them!

Well last weekend I found my answer.  I participated in my first ever clothing exchange party.

My girlfriends and I met up, each with our respective bags of “reject” outfits.  We proceeded to go through each article of eachother’s clothing one by one, trying things on, deciding what to keep and what to give away. 

I had arrived with two bags of clothing  and by the end of the night I’d say about 75% of those items had been claimed by others.  I also walked away with a full bag of new outfits.  [Many of which I’ve already worn this week.] And everything that went unclaimed got donated at the end of the night.



It was the perfect solution.  Exchanging AND donating.  Cost effective AND humanitarian.  Not to mention, the night itself was a total blast.  Drinking wine, trying on clothes, and friendly fighting over who gets to claim that fabulous blue dress or pair of brown boots.