Sunday, April 29, 2012

You Can't Afford To Go To The Movies


I’m increasingly annoyed by people who claim they’re broke yet fritter away their money endlessly.  I can accept that we all need to indulge occasionally for our own sanity, but I think most of us could use a little bit of tough love when it comes to what we can and can’t afford.

So here’s my list. 

If you’re broke you can’t afford to….

-       Go to the Movies.
o   Movies are absurdly expensive.  There’s nothing about them that can justify me spending $13 a head.  I can get almost two months of netflix for that price.  At $13/week going to the movies will cost you $676 a year.
-       Buy Concessions.
o   If funds are tight there is no excuse to be buying concessions in places where prices are inflated two to three times their regular retail price.  The movies, amusement parks, sporting events, etc.  Plan ahead and bring your own refreshments.  It’ll save you more than any popcorn and soda is worth.
-       Smoke.
o   Not only is smoking disgusting, it’s expensive.  I can’t think of one positive thing about smoking, the fact that it’s still as prevalent as it is boggles my mind, but that’s another topic altogether.
-       Have a Pet.
o   Having a pet is a MAJOR expense.  Food, veterinary care,  mats, litter boxes, the damage to your furniture and floors.  Pets are not for people who don’t have enough money to support themselves.  It’s not fair to you or to them.
-       Buy the latest Technology.
o   For someone who is “broke” to own a laptop, kindle, iphone, ipod, and ipad is nonsensical.  Stop buying things that are redundant- it’s money you don’t have.
-       Have an Unlimited Data Plan.
o   Unless you have family that works for the phone company you can’t afford a plan with unlimited data.  You can live without posting your exact location on twitter from your cell phone every hour.  I
-       Eat out.
o   Going out to eat once can run up a tab of anywhere from a day to a week to a months worth of groceries.  It’s a no brainer.  Eat at home and pack your lunch. 
-       Make daily coffee runs.
o   One $3 cup of coffee a day will run you over a thousand dollars a year.  Buy a travel mug and brew at home.
-       Attend every wedding, shower, and bachelorette party.
o   Clothing, transportation, gifts- weddings are an expensive enterprise and not just for the bride and groom.  Chances are most of your friends will get married while you’re still in your broke years- but unless you want to be broke forever, you have to pick and choose.  Destination wedding in Fiji? Unless it’s a brother or sister, I don’t think so.
-       Go away every weekend.
o   Even if it’s to your parents’ or friends’ upstate house, paying for that much gas each weekend is not in the broke budget.
-       Run up a Bar Tab every weekend.
o   It amazes me that people don’t realize they’ve dropped 60 or a 100 bucks at the bar till the next day.  Pregame at home and stick to one or two drinks that are on special when you get to the bar.
-       Get your hair cut and colored every six weeks.
o   Skip the color for a few years and stretch the cuts out to two or three times a year.   Skip the salon in favor of a cosmetology school and you’ll save hundreds of dollars a year.
-       Go Shopping.
o   Shopping has become a past time rather than a task. Random meandering will inevatibly lead to unnecessary purchases.  Go to the store only when you need something and only purchase what’s on your list.


These are not all black and white (except smoking, yuck).  I go out to eat, I buy gifts, I like to plan getaways.  This is just my tough love list.  When I indulge in any of these activities I think carefully beforehand and acknowledge that it truly is a a treat.  Something special that I will enjoy here and now because it’s not something that I can afford on a regular basis. There has to be some beautiful in the broke life, but too much beautiful will keep you broke forever.

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Love Doesn't Pay The Bills


You’ve probably heard it a million times… It’s important to love what you do. 

I don’t know how you can commit to working forty plus years doing something that doesn’t spark some kind of excitement or passion in you. 

Reconciling what you love to do and how you’re going to pay the bills.  That’s the tricky part.  I don’t know the answer.  I don’t even know how to go about finding the answer.  This might be the most frightening predicament of my adulthood.

The fact that I’m old enough to be an independent, self-sufficient person only years away from providing for my own family is a concept I can’t even begin to wrap my head around. 

I majored in Drama (and Psychology for good measure ;) ).  I’ve even been lucky enough to have a fair amount of work in my early adulthood.  But I haven’t ever had enough to pay all the bills.  Not without the help of a parent or boyfriend or credit card.  

But whether I’m employed or not, I’m out there working my butt off.  Looking for the next gig and babysitting or coat checking or personal assisting in the interim.  But realistically, I can’t do this forever.  I can’t count on singing and dancing to pay my bills for the rest of my life.  There’s too many factors outside of my control to guarantee anything.  And these days, even more “practical” skills can’t be counted on to supply a lifetime of financial well being. 

So what do I do?  What do any of us do?  Give up on our dreams and settle for a decent paycheck?  I can’t.  I love acting.  As impractical as it may be, I love it.  But love doesn’t pay the bills.

So what are the alternatives? 

Marry rich?  I’m in love with another actor, marrying rich doesn’t seem to be in the cards. 

Go back to school? What’s an extra degree in acting and thousands of dollars in debt going tell me about my future that I didn’t know before?

Struggle?  I don’t want to be in my mid sixties still waiting for my chance to “make it” with nothing saved for retirement.

The outlook is grim.  Anyone connecting with the song “What I Did For Love” right now? 

Well enough with the self-pity and fear.  I’m devising an action plan.

#1:  I will continue to commit my life whole-heartedly to my greatest passion.  (In my case, musical theatre).  I will do everything in my power to improve my work, my skill set, my marketability, and my general knowledge of my respective field.

#2:  I will constantly educate myself on financial literacy, responsibility, and strategy.

#3:  I will stive to reduce my expenses to live within and below my means and save for times without income.

#4:  I will continue to pursue what I love until what I love most changes. 

When I love money more than performing, I will devise a new action plan.  When I love taking an all-inclusive vacation to Hawaii more than performing, I will devise a new action plan.  When I love the promise of starting a family, more than performing, I will devise a new action plan.  And so on and so forth. 

Right now, love doesn’t pay the bills.  But I’ll work extra to supplement the difference so I can continue to follow my dream.  When that dream gets trumped by another, I’ll adjust accordingly.

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Broke AND Beautiful

I’m just gonna say it…. I love money. 

And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.  I don’t believe money is the root of all evil.  I don’t think it can buy you happiness either.  But I do believe it can give you a lot of freedom.

Financial freedom.  What a glorious idea.

Not absurd wealth, just enough money to pay the rent, support yourself, support a family, save for retirement, and maybe take the occasional vacation or indulge in a day at the spa.  The freedom to live without the stress of this months bills or how you’re going to put your children through college.

So that’s the dream.  My dream at least.  And I’m set on getting there.  But to be perfectly honest, I’m broke.  I can barely support myself- and some months, I can’t.  Being a college graduate at the height of the financial crisis didn’t help.  Nor does being an actor or living in one of the most expensive cities in the world (NYC). 

But regardless of my current circumstances I am determined to achieve financial freedom- and live a glorious and beautiful life while I work on getting there.

So that’s what this blog is about.  My journey, thoughts, observations- navigating the chasm between everything I want and need and the funds to support it. 

I know lots of people in similar circumstances.  We’re all working at finding our way through this strange period of establishing our independence and identity in an economic environment where the odds are stacked against us.

But I see so many making poor financial choices (in my opinion).  Sacrificing the fruits of tomorrow for the indulgences of today.  So I’m searching for the balance.  I want to retire someday, but not at the cost of giving up every pleasure and whim of the present.  And I want to enjoy the here and now, but not for the price of my future.

So here goes.   I hope my personal journey will serve as either guidance, brilliance, stupidity, entertainment, or just assurance that you’re not alone in your “broke”ness.   I’m off to live the broke and beautiful life, with the hope that someday soon the broke will become the abundant.

Disclaimer:  The thoughts and strategies presented in this blog are entirely my personal opinions and trials.  I am not a financial advisor nor have I had any formal training or education in the financial world.   Just sharing :)